My dear
mother – who has been calling me every day since my accident and has been under
depression that turns out it seems incurable – told me the other day that she
often thinks about my treasures because she realized that not only their dad
practically died but in addition I divorced their mother and cannot live with
them.
This gave
me the curiosity to look for divorce being something common for people like me
and I found zillions of websites about this exact topic, I can’t really
complain too much, I’ve been living in a beautiful retirement community in
downtown Santa Barbara and with my motorized wheelchair (my Ferrari) I can go pretty much everywhere I
want, no matter the time of the day.
In addition
I enjoy a superlative internet connection for my “PC monster”, overall my only
complaint and pain (as I’ve already stated here a zillion times) are related to the fact that Michele uses our
divorce as the gate to keep me out and away.
However
given that this accident gifted me of patience plus my TBI has reinforced my
born-given ability to predict the future; I have no doubt that it won’t take
another ten years before my family (my creation)
will reunite under the same roof.
I also know
the reasons that will make this somewhat of a necessity for my Queen, but I’m
not going to publish them here, the most important, needed and necessary factor
of my family reunification is that my children are going to have the chance to
have their own real dad living with them, without having to wait for an entire
week to see me, according to the divorce stipulations.
While
reading the webpages that talk about how the divorce of the parents affects their
children, I realized that my mother is totally right, in a way I died twice for
my treasures, one for the accident and two for the divorce.
It’s really
true that one must have a vast interior strength to be able to deal with
catastrophic events and this is where I see that my Queen Michele has my last name
only due to our (now
ended) marriage, but truly not because she has the interior strength of a Lingiardi (like my treasures).
DIVORCE FOR CHILDREN
- http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sally-fay/what-divorce-does-to-kids_b_877908.html
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-doesnt-kill-us/201302/trauma-divorce-and-its-effects-children
- http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce-and-infidelity/should-i-get-a-divorce/how-could-divorce-affect-my-kids
- https://www.starr.org/training/tlc/focus/children-and-divorce-trauma-themes
- http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/children-suffer-trauma-of-divorce-into-adult-life-1614009.html
TBI RELATED DIVORCE
- http://www.lapublishing.com/blog/2012/marriage-divorce-brain-injury/
- https://karaswanson.wordpress.com/2009/07/09/till-death-us-do-part/
- http://traversecity.legalexaminer.com/head-brain-injuries/the-forgotten-injury-after-tbi-the-injury-to-the-marriage/
- http://www.brainline.org/content/2009/01/truth-about-divorce-after-traumatic-brain-injury.html
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