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Tuesday, January 05, 2016

MOVING ON


What my life companion (and wife, still) has been telling to me for about 10 years, or that I still love her just because my brain is injured might be correct, no matter the plenty posts I published here about love being a status uniquely human, its difference from instincts and it being a God-given gift to mankind for the fact that given that my brain being objectively injured and me being still alive only for my love I have for both of my children, truly makes me wonder in which way I may be able to move on from our passionate relationship that produced what I’ve been calling here my 2 treasures.
Given that my life is empty of anything to do all day and every day I spent some time looking at what other couples did after either one of the couple had TBI (see links) and I realized that I must add yet another challenge to my life as survivor with TBI, or figure out how to move on.
What I can say for sure is that the part of my brain that appreciates female beauty is absolutely intact and I may even say that my solitude and distance from “womanly contacts” for such a very long time has made my attraction to other women even stronger than it’s ever been before.
However, since I’m a wheelchair bound disabled without much money I certainly can’t attract any woman of a certain beauty and class level (both of paramount importance) for anything more than a glimpse of pity directed to me, the fact that I always was a “good catch” for any woman I ever met, truly can’t help at all, simply because the gap from that condition (good catch) to my current one is so vast that I could bet $1M with anybody else about not being frustrated by it.
I doubt in fact that my being a real Italian, having a vast work experience at presidential level, 2 children in their teenage years and still being in love forever with their mother could help me to move on in any way, shape or form.
I must hope that some of the women (maybe Italian) who knew me when I was “a stud” could overcome what I definitely cannot and graciously take care of me.


  1. https://karaswanson.wordpress.com/2009/07/09/till-death-us-do-part/
  2. http://www.brainline.org/content/2009/01/truth-about-divorce-after-traumatic-brain-injury.html
  3. http://www.msktc.org/tbi/factsheets/relationships-after-traumatic-brain-injury

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