Last May I
explained the reason I have to call my son a hero, however today I want to add
few other reasons that make in my mind the importance of my son, who - beside
my infinite love for him - make him a truly unique man in the Lingiardi family.
First of
all – and very evidently – he’s the only one who can bring forward into the
future our last name, secondly – but not in terms of importance – he’s becoming
a man without my presence, his father who can’t live with him to set examples
of ways about how to approach, think and manage what happens in life.
Somehow I
have the dram- or hope/idea that he’s going to be the reason – maybe indirectly
– for my rejoining my family (my own creation) that’s going to allow these plenty years spent in complete solitude
become just a bad memory of my past.
What I
intend to talk about now is the phase that every young man goes through when
growing up, or the fact that both his parents are always wrong no matter the
topic and very boring to be around too, which makes any expectation of being
understood and cared for by your own son who always seems to be too busy to “waste”
one of his “very important” minutes of his life to do something (anything) for either of his parents, no
matter how they feel about it.
My
expectations to ever hear – and know – how his life will be once in NC at the
college of his choice are several feet below the ground, I fear that I’ll be in
contact only if and when he’ll need something from me, his only dad (hopefully NOT money).
Since I did
– as always – another internet search about boys rising without their father (links below) which – like if there’s any need for
additional reasons – gives me even more (if possible) drive to try to return to be the father who
lives with his own children in order to give them learn by example what’s
important to know to have a successful life as a winner (opposite of loser).
You both
know (I
told you thousands of times) how much I need to receive your goodnight call every evening at 9pm
more or less, but if when I call you myself and you don’t answer you add
disappointment to my being offended by your not being true to your promise.
- http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kyle-mcmahon/growing-up-without-father_b_3134928.html
- http://oureverydaylife.com/effect-men-grow-up-father-figure-43045.html
- http://www.bu.edu/today/2007/raising-boys-without-men/
- http://www.pbs.org/parents/raisingboys/masculinity02.html
- http://fallenfathers.blogspot.com/2007/03/children-without-fathers-statistics.html
- http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2013/06/03/what-are-fathers-for/children-are-better-off-with-a-father-than-without-one
- http://www.fathersforgood.org/ffg/en/fathers_essential/whats_dad.html
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