FOR MY TREASURES

I've been saying that my treasures are two side effects of my injury or practical death/homicide.

They both must be living with their mother Michele being (or trying to be) their single parent.

I've told in person and by email to Michele that she’s making a very big mistake and to reinforce my statement/accusation I put below some websites that explain how being raised by a single parent (mother) affects the entrance into adulthood in children, especially at the age of my treasures.

I cannot explain how much it hurts me to say that it’s too obvious the reason why Michele is so close to our children, they are her only sizeable source of money and I cannot count how many times I told her that she best accept me back in her life like I've become (physically disabled) before they can independently decide which parent they want to live with.

The way she’s been behaving in front of them is so wrong that for me to describe with any adjective would be to use very bad words, but I don’t want to do it, simply because I still do love her like I used to for about 15 years without any exception or doubt. All I’m doing with this post is to try to let her know how big of a mistake she’s been doing to our treasures, whose fault is only that they are and forever will be my children.

Without going into any detail or description, I’m concerned that since it’s well known that children learn things by example, I’m worried that my sweet and young angel may learn from her mother’s example/behavior that it’s OK to use the body as the instrument to have what she wants. It shocked me to learn that the very many years of living together in love didn’t change Michele’s attitude about the use of her only matter of trade (beauty) to gain whatever she wants.

While I link here few articles (and videos) about how damaging it can be for children to be raised by their mother as single parent, I hate to say that this isn't the whole story because what Michele has been showing with her behavior is much worse and I hope that once I’ll be their (present) dad again, my treasures’ attitude and look of life will improve easily. (at least also my own blood runs in their veins).

1. http://lifestyle.howstuffworks.com/family/parenting/single-parents/single-parenting-affect-children.htm
2. http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/children/children.cfm
3. http://prospect.org/article/consequences-single-motherhood
4. http://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/types-of-families/Pages/The-Challenges-of-Single-Parenthood.aspx
5. http://www.parenting.com/gallery/help-single-mothers
6. http://www.singlemothersbychoice.org/?gclid=CN2T95Xmlb8CFRWVfgodVaMAcg
7. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single_parent